Surviving attempted suicide
Kristen Jane Anderson, attempted suicide survivor now counsels others on suicide prevention.
September 12th, 2012
10:43 AM ET

Surviving attempted suicide

By Edgar Treiguts, CNN

(CNN) – Kristen Anderson says a cold January night that changed her life is just as vivid now as it was more than 12 years ago.

[:06] "Basically right before the train got there, just made the very impulsive decision to lay down on the tracks."

Anderson is 30 now, married, and expecting a baby boy in the next couple of weeks.

But she wasn't supposed to be here. She saw little way out of what she calls a "deep and scary depression" as a teenager. A year and a half of continuous tragedy saw four of her close friends die. And she was raped.

The reasons or triggers for any one person's road to a suicide attempt are many, but the result is the same.

Suicide is the the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration says it claims more than twice as many lives each year as homicide.

And that trend is rising. U.S. government officials are now launching a few national strategy to attack the health problem.

Kristen Anderson somehow survived that night on the railroad tracks, but lost her legs in the process. It's been faith and the help of some important people that has changed her course.

[3:53] "I don't even know how to describe it. I just feel incredibly hopeful, I feel very very blessed...I feel very very grateful. I could have never ever ever ever imagined that day that I laid down on those train tracks how much my life was going to change."

Anderson details her experience in her book 'Life, In Spite Of Me'. She also founded Reaching You Ministries , which aims to help others in trouble.

Listen to the complete story above and join the conversation below.

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  1. Complete


    September 12, 2012 at 6:54 pm | Report abuse |
  2. zombie

    Hey I don't blame people for wanting to commit suicide, we humans have made it a tough life to live. All the bills we have to pay, being in debt, struggling to find a job that will hopefully make ends meet. Heck I will probably do it myself one day, I am not working till the day I die.

    September 12, 2012 at 6:50 pm | Report abuse |
  3. Richard Maatta

    Kristen has overcome a lot of issues, Physical, emotional and spiritual. She developed strength to keep living in all aspects of her life. She has helped many from that night forward, from the rescuers to people with depression. So many people don’t find the help they need till it’s too late! Keep on growing Kristen

    September 12, 2012 at 6:46 pm | Report abuse |
  4. js

    It's very disappointing to see some of the crude and inappropriate comments on here, and then there's this TOMG, and no one knows or cares what he or she is talking about. Is it a full moon...the freaks are out in full force.

    September 12, 2012 at 6:43 pm | Report abuse |
  5. Carrie D.

    You should close the comments for this thread. Many are incredibly offensive. I have met Kristen, and she is a lovely woman with amazing courage who will save many lives with her story. ❤ from Columbus, Ohio, Kristen! Happy babying!

    September 12, 2012 at 6:33 pm | Report abuse |
    • Seriously?

      what is up with all these trolls? Of all the articles to troll, this is beyond offensive. Though there are over a hundred or so offensive even abusive trolls on these comments, CNN should officially ban their emails from posting on the website!

      September 12, 2012 at 6:56 pm | Report abuse |
  6. C

    That is beyond offensive.

    September 12, 2012 at 6:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • Edwin

      It is possible that Bill is emotionally suffering, and this is his only outlet. Let us hope he finds the help or friend he so desperately needs.

      Of course he might simply be an offensive little brat - but perhaps he needs help working through that, too.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:53 pm | Report abuse |
  7. J

    Dramatic chick can't admit she was born with a problem, has to make stuff like death of friends and rape to blame on it. People like her are why rape victims are looked at suspiciously

    September 12, 2012 at 5:49 pm | Report abuse |
    • Venus

      You really are a loser. We need more people like this girl who learned and made life better, instead of people like you who should live in a black hole somewhere.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:55 pm | Report abuse |
    • jo

      Rather than be judgmental, you should think before you talk. Rape and incest victims have to live with the dirty secret forever, not a day goes by that those victims don't think about the dirty/nasty things that were performed on their bodies. I admire Kristen for being brave and trying to fight the fight. There are so many people in the world, that for WHATEVER reason they feel they aren't good enough or don't measure up, rather than berate them why not try to offer some support and reassurance that they are worthy? Love you Kristen, keep up the WONDERFUL work.

      September 12, 2012 at 6:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • Carrie

      I can't believe you are so vicious. I guess you have never suffered depression. I already had it when I came home and found that my youngest son had shot himself. I hope you never have to go through anything like this.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:24 pm | Report abuse |
    • Dr. of Education

      I do not understand why anyone would assume they can understand the thoughts of a depressed person. Do you only believe in nature? Because I can ensure you, nurture is a cause as well. Also, rape victims should never be looked at suspiciously – and shame on you for having no empathy. What would your grandmother think of your comments?

      September 12, 2012 at 7:32 pm | Report abuse |
  8. joe

    that is a very unuiqe story it makes mewant to cri

    September 12, 2012 at 5:48 pm | Report abuse |
  9. dave

    try learning how to form complete and understandable sentences. then you can lecture others on the veracity of strong versus weak

    September 12, 2012 at 5:31 pm | Report abuse |
  10. etreiguts

    It's Edgar Treiguts with CNN. Doing the interview with Kristen, hers was a compelling story to take in – from how a good childhood quickly turned dark, and to where she is now. She told me her ministry is truly helping others in trouble, and good to see that her story is connecting with many of you who've listened. Wondering what everyone thinks of her call for more government funding to provide more free counseling for those in need? Especially in a time that's tough for many economically?

    September 12, 2012 at 5:28 pm | Report abuse |
    • Bobby

      Edgar, I think that there is a case to be made that much of that free counseling may lead to a few if not many of those "freeloaders" (as people will accuse them of being) getting some direction in their life, which in turn leads to productivity, and less dependence on government assistance. The free counseling that gets them motivated to stop sulking, and to be autonomous and move on with life is less costly than a life time of self-loathing, and shame, guilt, etc (all misappropriated usually, especially when associated with rape, since its not the victims fault ever) which leads to anti-productivity; which leads to a lifetime on welfare, or an under-funded household income if they are married. I bet increasing the funding for that counseling might yield positively on the bottom line of the government. Few will have faith in that concept though. They will only see the red going out, but not the black coming in. (speaking of negative and positive figures)

      September 12, 2012 at 6:29 pm | Report abuse |
    • sweetkimberly

      Personally I don't believe in counseling and therapy. Medication is the answer. People have no idea that they are suffering and have no clue that medication is life changing. Access to psychiatric care is not affordable to lower and middle income people in the U.S. which should be a crime. The average costs of psych drugs are about $500 – $1000 per month. Your average paycheck to paycheck family cannot afford them. The cost to see a psychiatrists first visit is $310 + $110 follow up medication management. Big Pharma is holding us hostage with their 10 year patents. The only affordable option is counseling but it's only a piece of the puzzle. Medication is required for most people to feel better. If you feel better with therapy only then you don't have a psych disorder.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:15 pm | Report abuse |
      • Psych RN

        As someone who works with adolescents in an inpatient psychiatric setting suffering from diagnoses including but not limited to Major Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and having often exprienced horrible cases of neglect, abuse, rape,etc.- many of whom are here on court order- I can say first hand that medications are often not the answer. Good counseling, family therapy, forming therapeutic relationships with adults and peers that can truly empathize with the client, and learning effective coping skills to manage the dark moments are often the best answer. Medications are only truly effective if the therapy is there as well. Not to mention the multitude of long term systemic side effects (Metabolic Syndrome, EPS, Sexual Impotence, Heart Disease, etc.) that can occur one is on these medications for extended periods of time.

        September 12, 2012 at 9:36 pm | Report abuse |
  11. thechristianpricesuicidetolifeproject

    I understand the pull suicide has on a persons life. Not all mental illness leads to suicide. Two decades ago I was growing up in a toxic home. I was mentally exhausted from living with abusive parents. In the summer of 1985 I began to consider suicide as a way to leave. My exact thoughts, "If I pull the trigger to one of those guns it will all be over," I picked up a hand gun and held it against my body and this is what I noticed: The adrenalin acted like an antidote to the depression I felt. For the first time in my life I felt like I had control over my destiny. I couldn't control a 200 pound adult from hitting me but I could control my own release from this world. I felt a sense of peace. This started me down a road. There is a wall of life that protects us from harm its our fight or flight response. In order to find my release I had to climb that wall. I had to desensitize myself to the fear of death. For 7 months I exhibited signs and symptoms of a suicidal person.

    I spoke openly of a life without me. I gave things away. My grades collapsed, (the ones I traditionally passed), I changed how I spent my free time and was obsessed with death. I the encyclopedia on suicide. They said "suicidal people exhibit these things" I was certain to exhibit them. I deep down did not want to die. But knew I couldn't continue on the way I had. As far as actually coming out and telling anyone, for one I risked no one taking me seriously, or I risked strong recursions at home. The balance of my life's destiny seemed to show me suicide. Suicide promised to release me. It acted like a teenage boy in the back seat of a car with his homecoming date. It told me everything I wanted to hear. I made a plan. Suicidal people typically make a plan. Mine was to go far out into a wooded area, away from help...where no one could hear or see. A small caliber rifle as it was easy to smuggle out of my home undetected. I was still at heart a vain teenage boy so I wasn't going to aim high. One shot through the heart and I would wake up in heaven, or so I thought.

    That night I set out, it was the weekend in 1986 just prior to the space shuttle Challenger went down on TV. I reached the secluded area. I wrestled for an hour to pull the trigger. Those that say suicide is a cowards way speak out of ignorance. At that moment I was unable to pull the trigger, I decided to head back home and return the rifle. As I started to walk out of the woods, I remembered I had very long of list of things to do before the abuser got home. Since I hadn't started this list and not wanting to get shoved around the house again I went and sat back down. Loading the rifle, I set it 1 inch from my heart and offered up a prayer to God, and pulled the trigger.

    I knew when I saw the muzzle flash, I had made a mistake. I regretted pulling the trigger. Nothing could've prepared me for what came after me. I found life is a gift. We tend to take for granted things until we lose them. Remember the last time you were sick in the bed with the flu? You regretted taking for granted health, well death is the same way. I wanted to live. Suicide has a process. It took 7 months for me to think I was ready to make that leap. I never went back to that place, not once. My body is covered in scars from suicide. It hurts most days. But, I am still thankful to be alive and was given a "do over" when I was a teenager.

    September 12, 2012 at 5:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • Ann Kentopp

      I want to say it is brave of you to share your story. My son took his life 5 years ago. I wish he could of had a do over. But unfortunately he completed suicide. I believe a way to help people in crisis is to hear these stories of survival. Thank you, for I believe at that last moment he wished he could have had a do over also. The pain he must of felt to be enormous. God Bless you and all the families that have experienced this. Also to those who try to comfort them.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:47 pm | Report abuse |
    • katrinas husband

      STILL ALIVE ??? After a rifle on your heart ??? HIOW CAN THIS BE ???

      September 12, 2012 at 6:35 pm | Report abuse |
    • Carrie

      My heart goes out to you. I hope your life is so much better now.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • Ann

      Thank you everyone who has shared their survival of suicide story. Three years agi I tired by swallowing perscription pills and washingit down a liquid prescription. Many things led me to it. I cannot zero in on any one. But i felt there was no way out from the inner pain I felt. I woke up in ICU very angry that I had not succeeded. I was tied in a bed and had something down my throat. I relized God is in charge. Since then, my life has been even harder, I still think about doingit again, butI call for help now. I know God is in charge of my time to go. I hurt my family and feel so ashamed. My marriage in fractured permanently. I cannot fix this. I understand the desire to end it all, but I know it is not the answer.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:41 pm | Report abuse |
    • xmxm

      You write really well. Consider writing.

      September 12, 2012 at 8:19 pm | Report abuse |
  12. midwest489

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

    September 12, 2012 at 5:10 pm | Report abuse |
    • Margaret

      Not all problems are temporary. Some people have debilitating illness and just can't face another day of pain, knowing it is only going to get worse before the end. We put our pets out of their misery, and I am not saying we should just go around killing off sick people. But a terminally ill person should have the right to decide how to end it. But that is totally different from someone with depression (which is a illness).

      September 12, 2012 at 8:14 pm | Report abuse |
    • Duh

      You should write bumper stickers. They are usually meaningless too.

      September 12, 2012 at 9:29 pm | Report abuse |
  13. Roger

    I'm pretty sure that she wasn't just crying out for attention. She threw herself down across train tracks in front of a fast moving train.

    September 12, 2012 at 5:06 pm | Report abuse |
  14. Kevin

    Why does he have to be a Liberal and not just an idiot nut case???

    September 12, 2012 at 5:03 pm | Report abuse |
  15. palintwit

    If I was Sarah Palin I'd drive around the neighborhood until I came across someone running a woodchipper. Then I'd hurl myself into it. Fffttt !! All gone !!

    September 12, 2012 at 4:58 pm | Report abuse |
  16. steeler1nation

    Obama-nomics & his driving this economy into the ground are causing the suicide rate to go up.

    September 12, 2012 at 4:57 pm | Report abuse |
    • johnappleseed

      good one...

      September 12, 2012 at 5:04 pm | Report abuse |
    • palintwat


      September 12, 2012 at 5:05 pm | Report abuse |
    • Psych RN

      Okay, really? What does this have to do with the article? She didn't try to kill herself 12 years ago because of Obama "driving this economy into the ground". Which he didn't. You can thank baby Bush for that one.

      September 12, 2012 at 9:49 pm | Report abuse |
  17. Our Tiny Earth

    I attempted suicide 7 years ago. I'm lucky to be here. I'm lucky for the friends I have.

    September 12, 2012 at 4:54 pm | Report abuse |
    • anthony pappas

      You are blessed that you have friends that care. It there were people that cared for everyone, there would be far fewer suicides. But the suicidal person often struggles alone and no one responds when he reaches out for help.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:18 pm | Report abuse |
    • ricksta

      Glad you're here.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:26 pm | Report abuse |
  18. Bill21

    Suicide is nature's way of getting rid of the weaklings. She shouldn't have stopped trying

    September 12, 2012 at 4:50 pm | Report abuse |
    • Lewis Chen

      How utterly unnecessary and hurtful to say this.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:58 pm | Report abuse |
    • jer

      you would say that behind a keybard, coward

      September 12, 2012 at 5:00 pm | Report abuse |
    • Shocked Beyond Belief

      By Dawin's theory, that's correct. However, in modern times lives can be turned around. It's extremely sad this young woman had to lose her limbs to learn there is hope when one hits rock bottom.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:07 pm | Report abuse |
    • Albert

      Bill21, she survived an attempted suicide meaning she's not weak. She's moved on with her life and is stronger than ever. I guess nature got it right.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • Winona

      If you had anyone close to you die because of mental illness, you would understand the devastation and you'd never post what you did Bill 21 and TomTom about suicide when you have no experience with it. No need for an intellectual sword fight. There is nothing to win in suicide discussions.

      My sister died of depression very recently. An accomplished, pretty, fun mother, wife and sister. She was my wing-man. An entire Indianapolis church was filled with devastated shocked people. Disbelief. Bill21 and TomTom.... your comments are inhumane. You damage others with your words. You hurt fragile people. In honor of my sister, I ask that you please stop hurting people with your words.

      September 12, 2012 at 5:58 pm | Report abuse |
      • Complete

        I would enjoy a moment with you bro, your response to your enjoyment of others pain and surrering tells me you just as damaged mentally as anyone who would comic suicide. I work in a mental health ward, and most of them enjoy seeing others fail.... Sound like anyone you know bill, tom?

        September 12, 2012 at 6:59 pm | Report abuse |
      • sp

        You have to learn to forgive people like bill21. I can understand the severity of depression as I have seen a couple of family members suffer from it pretty badly and can imagine it leading them to death, so yes it can be terminal especially if the cause of depression is some underlying severe health problem. Many times when people like bill21 insult you they probably are projecting some of their own problems onto here and probably unhappy with something in there life. People content and happy with their life rarely go out of their way to insult people , even if they are strangers. Just assume that bill21 is also suffering from some form of ailment and forgive him.
        Get well soon bill21 !

        September 12, 2012 at 7:05 pm | Report abuse |
        • sp

          there = their !

          September 12, 2012 at 7:05 pm | Report abuse |
      • skegeeace

        Well, if you believe in Darwinism, then maybe you can be next since you're clearly of the lowest common denominator.

        September 12, 2012 at 7:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • Karmamama

      Bill, she did stop trying. Means she's strong and can change. You on the other hand, will always be snide and cruel.

      September 12, 2012 at 7:00 pm | Report abuse |
    • Duh

      Why are you all feeding the troll? There's nothing intelligent to read here....move along.

      September 12, 2012 at 9:31 pm | Report abuse |
    • someone

      And people who make remarks like that are a major part of the problem. Say it to your wife and kids often enough, and maybe they'll become one of those statistics.

      September 12, 2012 at 9:45 pm | Report abuse |
    • Carrie

      You really need to think about how what you say affects other people. Have you no compassion?

      September 12, 2012 at 10:28 pm | Report abuse |
  19. JV6

    My mother committed suicide when I was in high school. I know that it hurts the ones you leave behind. But I also know that if you find yourselves at that moment in time when you want to end it all, please remember this- you chose to end your life not anyone else, there is always help around, leave note so your family knows why and finally dont off yourself and ruin someones elses day like jumping off an overpass during rush hour traffic. Choose Carefully

    September 12, 2012 at 4:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • KittyKat

      Wise words. I hope your Mother left a note and it helped ease the pain. Being a teen is hard enough without having to deal with a suicide. Sorry for your loss.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:44 pm | Report abuse |
  20. teenytinyheeb

    I think the most annoying thing is everyone elses responses on how they used to cut or something, its like watching a youtube video and everyone comments on how this story relates to them because of all the ridiculous things that have happened to them and seems ingenuine and fake

    September 12, 2012 at 4:07 pm | Report abuse |
  21. amaf21

    Nice choice of web ads CNN. Jackazzes.

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    September 12, 2012 at 4:02 pm | Report abuse |
  22. CJ

    Are you a complete insensitive moron

    September 12, 2012 at 3:57 pm | Report abuse |
    • G

      I doubt that any of you have ever experienced mental illness. Try having a mixed bipolar episode where you hardly have a grasp on your own thoughts and actions. People who kill themselves are often sick and it is because of the stigma created by heartless, ignorant people that they don't seek help. Every life is precious and our society has become so desensitized that death and suffering is now comical to many. I'm disgusted.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:12 pm | Report abuse |
      • Seyedibar

        You can't call something precious when there are billions of that thing. Humans are no exception.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:43 pm | Report abuse |
  23. marine in the dark

    so wow yall are pretty rude , i gashed my wrists open in april due to losing my best freind over seas ...he wsa shot in the head next to me ...F*** you all for being insensitive, and god bless the ones that realized the errors of our ways , if your a survivor remember even the tough cry and sometimes the lonely have the most freinds .. SEMPER FI

    September 12, 2012 at 3:57 pm | Report abuse |
    • MATT

      God bless you sir and thank you for your service to our country!

      September 12, 2012 at 4:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • Elizabeth

      Thank you for your service. Thank you for being alive.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • nojusticed

      I have been dealing with a similar case with a friend of mine, had him locked in a hospital for attempting to kill himself, at this point I do not care anymore just as long as his suicide does not involve me. The way i see it anybody who survives a suicide attempt was not serious enough in the first place and are just looking for a hug and being told everything is going to be all right. If I were you I would pretend like that part of my life never happened and never speak of it again.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:31 pm | Report abuse |
    • elesha

      I'm glad you survived. Thank you for your service, no one will ever know what it was to walk in your shoes – or march in your boots as it were – you are in my prayers.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:43 pm | Report abuse |
    • Georg

      Death by Suicide is clearly not only an important issue but one that is often misunderstood based on the comments in this thread. When people are in so much emotional pain that the only solution they can fathom is taking their own life our first response should be empathy. Many people including therapists are afraid to talk about it but talking about it doesn't cause it to happen. The lack of information, anger and fear on this post is so typical of people who are uniformed. It is a very serious problem but it can be treated. Nearly everyone who makes a serious attempt (like those that jump off the Golden Gate Bridge) receive help and go on to live their lives.

      Sometimes hearing about someone else who died by suicide can make some vulnerable people more likely to make an attempt though so it is very impotant how you talk about it and their are media guidelines (few of which were followed in this article) .. Tell your friends that it a treatable problem. there is hope..

      September 12, 2012 at 5:00 pm | Report abuse |
  24. jb

    Tom, Tom –

    You are willing to apologize to Jim which is commendable. And in your apology, you mention your sensitivity re: cancer because you lost 2 close friends. Your exact words...

    "My apologies.. I suppose I’m a bit sensitive about the issue."

    And you later state, "People who have not experienced cancer have no idea and could not possibly understand…right?

    Have you experienced depression or had any immediate family member who has committed suicide? If not, how could YOU understand THEIR grief or perspective? Why can't a mother who lost her son to suicide express her perspective and anguish? It's not about her being a victim, it's about her attempts to cope and learning how to move on after losing a child.

    I think you owe an apology to MissMySon.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:55 pm | Report abuse |
    • Elizabeth

      My husband has cancer, and it is one of hte sources of depression. My daughter has been battling depression for a long time. It is very difficult. I hope that people become more compassionate.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:33 pm | Report abuse |
      • Rylley

        Elizabeth, I have been through both, and I hope that the three of you all find peace and happiness.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:57 pm | Report abuse |
  25. Bryan

    Depression is the scariest place I've ever been. I never contemplated suicide but at the same time I didn't want to go on living that way. Luckily, I had a very supportive and understanding wife (who had been severely depressed once herself), 2 wonderful kids that needed me (fathers are NOT replaceable), a boss that didn't understand depression but took the time to listen to me and learn from it, a great doctor that quickly diagnosed the depression correctly and a church that accepted me the way I was (and I wasn't much when we started going there).

    I was very fortunate to have such loving and caring people around me. I know not everyone does, at least they don't think they do when they're depressed. Believe me though, someone cares about you, someone loves you very much. If you're a father, mother, brother, sister, son, daughter,uncle, cousin, grandparent (yeah, if you're anyone), YOU ARE NOT REPLACEABLE! I'm replaceable at work, I'm not replaceable at home. My job at work can be done by many, my job at home can only be done by me. Please talk to someone if you're depressed, don't commit suicide, someone will miss you terribly.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:48 pm | Report abuse |
    • Marlin Bullard

      Not everyones road to recovery is the same.. but still talking about it and sharing so people know they are not the only ones who sufer helps!

      You rock at life Mr. Bryan.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:03 pm | Report abuse |
    • JJ

      Depression is bleak. I've endured it too. Runs in my family. Wouldn't want to go back to it though I often fear I might.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:31 pm | Report abuse |
    • Deborah

      Bryan, I'm so glad you are better and thankful for your supportive church family and wife/kids. Christian people are supposed to love and help each other and you are indeed fortunate to have found a kind and welcoming group of believers. I have battled depression for many years as has my husband. Our teenage son is bipolar and has attempted suicide several times, each time more serious than the last, and was hospitalized five times for depression. God has spared him each time and we continue to trust Him to care for us each day. We also have a loving church family and are very thankful to have them in our lives.
      Kristin should be appreciated for her dedication to helping families and individuals going through serious depression. I believe she is honoring the call God has on her life to reach out to others. We are very blessed to have met her and her mom, and she even talked to my son one-on-one. Hearing her witness helped him and due in part to her, I do not believe he will attempt suicide again. Kristin cares enough to travel extensively and talk to teens and families facing the devastation of severe depression. Please read her book – it can change your life and cause you to be more compassionate toward others. Do not criticize her. Her life is a miracle and I believe God spared her so she could share her story and keep others from harming themselves. She has an awesome testimony and truly wants to help prevent more suicides. There's too much criticism in this world and not enough love and compassion.

      September 12, 2012 at 11:12 pm | Report abuse |
  26. Lucy

    I began to self harm at 8, due to extremely early onset depression. This was missed. I first attempted to take my life aged 16. I was sent home from hospital without being referred to a psychiatrist. I continued to self harm. Went to see a doctor who told me to 'give myself a shake.' I went home. Continued to self harm. For the next twelve years i self harmed. I took pills, lost weight, gained weight, cut myself, burned myself, injured myself in virtually every way imaginable, lost my friends, pushed away my family, because i had no idea why my mind was allowing me to do this. At no point did i ever recieve medical help that i was entitled to upon asking for it. A year and a half ago, i tried to hang myself and had to be resucitated.

    Finally, almost 2 decades after starting to endure something that i had absolutely no contol over, i got a diagnosis and have been in treatment ever since.

    Am I selfish? For getting depressed for so long? Or are the medical professionals who i sought help from the selfish ones for allowing themselves to be so overcome by the stigma of mental illness?

    If you have never been depressed, never suffered any form of mental illness, then at least check to see that your heart is not made of stone before you comment. You're views on suicide and mental health are indeed, selfish.

    I would have given anything to communicate with somebody who was going through the things i was when i was growing up. I think that this interview and her book are a revelation, and should be used to educate people in terms of suicide prevention. Brave lady.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:45 pm | Report abuse |
    • Marlin Bullard

      I was there as well. I had breakdowns at work because I was so very depressed. My mind would just rotate on my failings.. that I wasnt good enough..t hat I would never acomplish anything and that I was alone. I would come home to a empty dark house and it was miserable. I was so desperate to change my mood that I practically lived at my two good friends place but still managed to nearly ruin that friendship with my mental problems.

      Then I went in and was put on lexapro. It took a few days but it litteraly helped change my life.

      I had been in negatively reinforcing cycle. My dark mood made me release negative chemicals which made my mood darker.. which in turn depressed me more and more negative chemicals. It had to break the cycle with help. I tried for two years but couldnt do it alone.

      It wasn't a perfect process.. I strugged for a year on and off with depression and guilt ( I didtn do naything wrong.. i thoguht of things to be guilty about). Six years later I am off the medication and have been for about three years. I am happy. My life isnt perfect, but I dont worry about it. I also have a cat which.. believe me.. PETS can HELP! Seriously.. if you live alone getting a dog or cat may truely help you. You may still need medications.. indeed I would get those before I got an animal.. but once your stable the animal can help push you back where you need to be.

      Anyway thats my experiance.. and Marshmellow ( my kitty) says hello.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:02 pm | Report abuse |
  27. Dave

    You missed the point. She did not survive the suicide attempt she was saved by the Grace of God for the purpose of bringing others to Him. Suicide is not the topic here, God is.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:42 pm | Report abuse |
  28. doughnuts

    Don't try harder; try smarter!

    September 12, 2012 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
  29. matt

    Can we all just settle down about these douche bags who are dropping heartless comments about suicide. Its just the same person commenting over and over under a different name.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:38 pm | Report abuse |
  30. matt

    I feel sorry for your mother!

    September 12, 2012 at 3:34 pm | Report abuse |
  31. mileswells

    Whoever says "suicide failure" obviously doesn't know about Kristin's case. It's one thing to swallow a bunch of pills in a feeble attempt to overdose, but she laid her body down in front of a freight train with every expectation that she would not survive the injuries. You cant say she didn't give it her all! She is a lovely person.... and is expecting her first child any day now!

    September 12, 2012 at 3:28 pm | Report abuse |
  32. Holly

    Tom, Tom – you are nothing but a coward who hides behind a monitor spewing nasty comments at people just for fun. I can tell you are really into it too – you post your replies immediately to boost your ego! I'm certain you are compensating for your lack of intelligence, good looks, or both. I'll buzz your mom and let her know to cut the crusts off your sandwich before she brings it down to the basement. Idiot troll.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:27 pm | Report abuse |
  33. Kingdom of Heaven

    For all of you depression sufferers...it's not a disease, nor will it ever be. If it ever turns into one, then people are not willing to use the brain that God has given them, instead they want others to use it for them. If you would seek the kingdom of heaven and concentrate on that everyday, there will never be time for depression. Instead, you will be looking forward to what is to come, heaven and eternal paradise after this short trial called life. Think of it this way...if you CHOOSE to commit suicide, know that God has given you everything you need in your life, and you CHOSE to throw it out the window because you can't seem to make yourself happy–its called SELFISHNESS no matter how you look at it. Stop concentrating on YOU and concentrate on how you can help others, homeless, widows and orphans. Be thankful for what you have even if its just a little! Read your bible people, if you're depressed the bible is the only kind of medication you need! No doctor, no family member or anyone else in this world will be able to ever help you escape it. You have to have self-control over your brain and body! And always remember to thank God that He has given you yet another blessed day to live, because thousands of others would've been happy to have at least one more day with a loved one that is actually ill or was killed tragically. SELF CONTROL PEOPLE-PRACTICE IT.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:26 pm | Report abuse |
    • Dirb

      I understand you have certain beliefs. I was raised with certain beliefs. I what I don't understand is how you would think that I would choose to feel the way I do? If it was that easy I would do it.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:35 pm | Report abuse |
    • cryofpaine

      As a Christian, and one that has suffered from depression for over 20 years, I can tell you that you are an idiot. Depression is a serious medical condition, one that does not magically vanish no matter how much you pray or how often you read your bible.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Report abuse |
    • Hannah

      'God', 'religion', and/or 'Jesus', has nothing to do with suidice you ignorant prick.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Report abuse |
    • doughnuts

      Talk about not using your brain, you're the perfect example. Clinical depression is an imbalance in mental chemistry. It can be induced through the use of drugs, and it can be alleviated through the use of drugs. As mood and emotion state can be and are self-reinforcing (hormones affecting physical state and emotion which in turn lead to alterations in neuro-transmitter levels) things like behavior-modification and meditation can help.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Report abuse |
    • Joe

      I'll let you in on a secret:

      I felt 100% the same way as you about 5 years ago. I had a close friend who suffered from "depression" and hurt themselves. I never got it. I thought it was an excuse to give up trying.

      Then I dealt with some issues personally. I can never explain how or why I feel a certain way. I just feel sad or hopeless, for no reason and at random. I'm recently engaged. I love my family. I'm succeeding in my career and am way ahead of where I saw myself. I just feel this emptiness... I never hurt myself, but it does take a toll on me mentally.

      So be careful in assuming (like I did). I do think some use it as an excuse to get attention. But I know there are others like me who feel it and can't control or explain it.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:38 pm | Report abuse |
      • Syuzi

        Dear Joe,I totally agree with you that some commit suicide as an excuse to get attention. There are short or long periods in life that anyone feels this emptyness,so you arenot the only one.Psychologists may help to find a way out of this emptyness.Feeling alone,feeling emptyness is not a reason to commit a suicide,you are right that you think about your wife and your children,(It shows that you are not an egoists as I think that egosists commit a suicide) you should remember that you are not replaceable for them. to my point suicide is the most horrible thing in this life.It is worse than killing somebody,because you make a sin killing yourself and you cannot ever redeem your sin because you arenot alive,but killers have time to repent for their sin. And as for commiting suicide by throwing yourself in front of a speeding train or car,it is the worst possible method.as it forces someone else to commit murder against their will. You know that horror movie Saw? That's what the bad guy in that movie did, forced other people to commit murder. So you force someone else to live with that horrific memory. No, this one doesn't even deserve discussion.

        September 20, 2012 at 2:27 am | Report abuse |
    • Trig

      I agree with the self control comment 100%. But the whole believe in God part is just rubbish. If there was really a God that is almighty, then how does he allow for inncoent people to be killed? Baby's to be born deformed and sick? I can ask a thousand other questions but I already know the answer. He doesnt exist. He is as real as the tooth fairy and easter bunny.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:38 pm | Report abuse |
      • tater

        i have to say i pray for people that has this problem and sickness yess god is real and does help but the biggest than god does is have other christain that will listen to you and talk with you and help when they are needed. as for the question wy god alowses this and that here is a question why do people do this and that a lot of things like people being killed is done by other people

        September 12, 2012 at 4:14 pm | Report abuse |
    • Me

      Wow this makes me incredibly sad. I lost my baby brother to suicide 7 years ago and let me tell you, that IS a VERY tragic way to lose someone. I would give anything for one more day to be with him. Yes it is a selfish thing to do, but it IS a disease. I am about to graduate with a master's degree in clinical psychology so trust me, it is a disease and something that can be helped. Yes the bible and God can help some people, but it is by no means the only way and will do no good to others who don't see things that way. My brother made a terrible decision in what he felt was a desperate situation. He was only 16 years old for your "God's" sake and saying that depression is not a disease is like overturning years of research and ways of helping people through troubled times. Please do not downplay the tragedy of suicide, because it is one of THE MOST tragic ways to lose a family member. Think about it please.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
    • Calyps0

      As a christian and a sufferer of depression, that is one of the most naive and irresponsible things I have ever read. It was that exact mindset that led me into a darkness that you cannot just "get over". The brain is an organ like any other, and like any other, things can go wrong. God gave us marvellously complex brains make of chemicals and neurons that rely on a delicate balance to function properly. Telling people with depression to read their bibles instead of take their medication is like telling a diabetic to stop taking insulin. I know you mean well, but you have no clue what you are saying.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:41 pm | Report abuse |
    • John

      Just a thought....the christian god is jesus (and the holy spirit). And god knows everything that has ever happened and will happen. So when god became man, as jesus, to die for our sins he knew this was going to happen....so in essense god killed himself.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:44 pm | Report abuse |
    • Kingdom of Heaven

      Get off your high horses peeps. No need for name calling.
      God has everything to do with the way a person feels whether or not you want to believe it. The problem is that people rely way to much on that certain "pill" to make you feel all better, why not try yourself?? Dirb: if you would honestly and truthfully give yourself to the Lord, He would be more than happy to take you out of the state you are in. Like i said earlier it is a matter of self control. You choose to feel this way because you choose to be selfish. If people would stop thinking just of themselves and start to do good for others and get busy working for the Lord i guarantee that day by day that depression will disappear. As far as it being a medical condition..it's not. Cryofpain, you obviously were not a christian. Whoever has Christ in his/her heart has no reason to be depressed they have way to much to loose.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:48 pm | Report abuse |
      • Kingdom of Heaven

        John: He also rose from the dead!!! 🙂 thats the beauty in it! And He's coming back again! No human can die for someone, save their soul, forgive them all their sins and give them a second chance at eternal happiness and take us to heaven!! God gives us a choice. We can serve Him or we can serve Satan. Its up to you to choose who you want to follow. Call me dumb, call me naive, call me whatever makes YOU feel better. Just know that all i am saying is that if you can honestly get right with the Lord, you will not need any medication for depression. I'm no doctor nor do i claim to be. Im just another human being here on earth that has learned lesson after lesson that it is VERY important to be strong in God. And yes i only mean good in my posts, im not judging, merely stating my opinions and beliefs like everyone else is. Hope you guys understand, and remember Jesus is the answer to all your problems, they may not go away all at once, but one by one you will be able to conquer them with Him! Thanks and have a blessed day!!

        September 12, 2012 at 4:06 pm | Report abuse |
      • Roger

        I thought god gave everyone free will and that he's not allowed to make choices for people. So, then, why would he have any say-so in the way we feel? I don't think you know the man quite as well as you think.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:39 pm | Report abuse |
    • Just saying...

      What an idiot.. What about the 14 year old girl in Morocco who killed herself a few weeks ago because she was forced to marry the guy who raped her in order to "clear" her family's name? The guy not only raped her, but also beat her on a daily basis and her family just kept telling her to be patient.. she ended up taking some rat poison.. I wonder how many days you would have been able to endure something like that using your "self-control" theory. Some people don't really have an option in this world like you want to portray it..

      September 12, 2012 at 3:49 pm | Report abuse |
    • Counselor

      Kingdom of Heaven, you are clearly delusional and uneducated. Depression is in fact an illness, just like hypertension. You hypocritically say that people should focus on helping others, but you shun and attack those that need help and criticize them for how they feel. Rather than using your supposed religious beliefs for negative why not using them to keep someone alive. You should never judge until you can understand and clearly you do not understand.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:49 pm | Report abuse |
    • panage2000

      God is great!!

      September 12, 2012 at 3:52 pm | Report abuse |
    • NBE

      You can safely ignore anyone everyone here as "People."

      September 12, 2012 at 4:04 pm | Report abuse |
      • NBE

        Sorry for my garbled post.

        I meant: You can safely ignore anyone who addresses everyone here, all together, as "People," and now, I see, "peeps," too. This form of address-as in Listen up, people! or the sarcasm-dripping "People, people!"-is a dead giveaway that further reading is unnecessary.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • Herethenthere

      Kingdom Of Heaven: Quite honestly, you are nobody to judge others. I'm sorry, but you are not God. Yes you are allowed to have your own beliefs, but you must also respect others' beliefs. You have no right to accuse someone else of not being Christian. You probably have never experienced depression before. It is not something that can be taken lightly. You should be a little more respectful to others since you have no idea what it feels like to go through that.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:27 pm | Report abuse |
    • Phil

      You are ignorant.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:29 pm | Report abuse |
    • Rylley

      Wow, what a ridiculous comment from someone claiming to be one of God's children. If you believe in "God's Plan" then every birth, death, illness, happy day, sad day, and everything in between has already been preordained by the all-knowing, all-loving, perfect ruler of the universe (including war, abortion, murder for any reason). All of this is part of God's plan. If you believe in free will, then God becomes a superfluous entity who may care what you do, but is in no position to effect change, or does not care enough to change it. Epicures, who was a philosopher 300 years before Christ walked the Earth, was even rational enough to pose the following:
      " The gods can either take away evil from the world and will not, or, being willing to do so, cannot; or they neither can nor will, or lastly, they are both able and willing. If they have the will to remove evil and cannot, then they are not omnipotent. If they can, but will not, they are not benevolent. If they are neither able nor willing then they are neither omnipotent or benevolent. Lastly, if they are able and willing to annihilate evil, how does it exist?"

      I believe in everyone's right to believe what they want as long as it does not infringe on anothers freedom to do the same. So to post a ridiculously uncaring comment like that in God's name especially when dealing with a subject that is as sensitive as this, is in direct conflict with many of your Messiah's teachings. Why don't you put the Bible down for a little while go outside and learn how to deal with real people. Imagine if suicide of depression had affected your life in a profound way and someone made some thoughtless, judgemental comment to you. You probably wouldn't take to kindly to it – regardless of your religion or lack of. Ignorance is not bliss, it will be the downfall of the human race if we don't learn more about eachother and learn from our differences.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:43 pm | Report abuse |
    • Elizabeth

      Augustine was dualist: flesh bad, spirit good, even though the flesh of Christ is good and the spirit of pride is evil. Augustine fought those who said that grace comes from man instead of God, and at the same time he said that the work of man that shows riches means that God is giving them favors; a total contradiction. Calvin believed the same things, and many Protestants picked up the theme. It is not Christian. The Bible says "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven." Those who can't help being down in spirit are those who are rewarded, not those who sit in judgment of others. Think of the parable of the Publican and the Pharisee. The one who says, "Lord have mercy" is the one justified, not the one who says, "I'm glad that I'm better than that poor person over there." If you are Christian, you believe in compassion on those who are poor and depressed. There is no compromise on this in Christianity.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:44 pm | Report abuse |
    • Seyedibar

      If you remove the hogwash about gods from your comment,I'd agree. Depression is no disease. It's a natural chemical imbalance that every person works through. The difference is in the social coping mechanisms gifted by your parents. If you follow the rabbit hole all the way down, then you are not adequately equipped with the social skills to survive and compete. But it's enlightening to watch the heart-wrenching meaningless semantic arguments about god's plan or "bi-polar" disease. Naming something and calling it a disease only means they can sell a tonic for that.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:48 pm | Report abuse |
    • Georg

      The God of Compassion that I believe in would never want any of his children to suffer.. Depression and death by suicide are no more a flaw of the soul than diabetes is.. I realize that some religions like the Seventh Day Adventists and some cults like the Scientology don't believe in mental health treatment but many many Christians know all too well that things that happen in our lives can cause our bodies, brains and souls to be in tremendous pain.

      Sometimes it can happen for now reason but often it is a natural reaction to over-whelming trauma (like rape or death) and the rate of depression is just as high among Christians as the rest of society. Utah oddly enough has the highest rate of anti-depressant use in the US so perhaps Mormon's aren't as protected by their faith?

      September 12, 2012 at 5:09 pm | Report abuse |
  34. Steve

    There are about 100 suicides a day in the US. There are many other people suffering. We need a cultural change in America.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:24 pm | Report abuse |
  35. Chris

    Suicide is a personal choice albeit grim and detestable by many a people. Its a choice that one doesn't come to lightly some times people wan to cash in there chips for what ever the cause. Now that doesn't mean I am not going to talk them try and see why they made the choice but if they feel it requires the sacrifice who are we to say no put him in straight jacket and pump him full of drugs. Families will grieve of course for the lost some just wont move on but remember its not your choice its theirs its not selfish because its not a group decision. On a harsher note though I think we as a people put to much stock in the value of a life there are 6 billion+ people on the planet meant for a third that number I think we can spare a few bodies. One final thing for the people who going to tear my comment here to pieces I suffer from depression myself and have yes though about suicide but thats for me and its MY DECISION.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • Chris is Dumb

      Chris...Your paragraph is barely readable.

      An it seems your a heartless, immoral being. Depression can get anyone. Learn about the brain and how it functions then maybe post your dribble.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:27 pm | Report abuse |
      • Chris

        Ow my writing is so bad ow well but I see we have a few of those extra bodies here that the world can spare so how about it boys train, car, gun, or drugs its your pick winner gets a free autopsy. 🙂

        September 12, 2012 at 3:42 pm | Report abuse |
      • You are the dumb one you idiot

        read between the lines you biyaatch!!!, what Chris is really saying no one cares, Chris I really do care, depression has a grip of a vice and all it does is to lead you to deeper abyss. Practice meditation and positive thinking, the subliminal messages work, there are negative ones and positive ones.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:44 pm | Report abuse |
    • lol


      September 12, 2012 at 3:43 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        damn it

        September 12, 2012 at 3:47 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        I guess I need to kill myself

        September 12, 2012 at 3:47 pm | Report abuse |
    • Grandma Nazi

      If my grammar WERE as horrible as yours …

      September 12, 2012 at 5:52 pm | Report abuse |
  36. Mark

    You're very immature.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:21 pm | Report abuse |
  37. Davesh

    You could just make an agreement to leave like Alec Baldwin did when Bush was elected. Then you could fail to live up to it as you realize the whole US didn't fall apart, like Alec Baldwin did when Bush was elected.
    Or you could just go now.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:20 pm | Report abuse |
  38. Sandra Brislin

    Fight to treat your depression instead allowing it to dominate you Even if everyday is a struggle, fight it for the little joys in life. You will be happy you did just like this young girl.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:19 pm | Report abuse |
  39. Dev

    The real meaning is you lack compassion.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:19 pm | Report abuse |
    • geminimoon66

      Oh yea, I should have thrown that in there. Not only do I lack compassion for the selfish and unwilling, I am also a heartless b@stard too.

      Have a great day!
      Or not...

      September 12, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Report abuse |
      • Mark

        sorry, i mean DEV. 🙂

        September 12, 2012 at 3:24 pm | Report abuse |
    • Mark

      geminimoon66 is a child seeking attention.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:23 pm | Report abuse |
  40. Dev

    It's not only the smile, but the anticipation of a coming one that can change your mood in an instant. Here comes one now!

    September 12, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Report abuse |
  41. ADD2012

    Who really cares about the semantics.
    Atleast her precious life was saved and she lives to save others.
    That's what is important.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Report abuse |
  42. Rob

    You are f*****ng twisted.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:13 pm | Report abuse |
  43. Wayne

    After 4 psychologists and 4 psychiatrists, several classes and a dozen books it is my opinion that anyone that has never been treated for depression (or Bipolar Disorder in my case) will never comprehend it. I include my doctors in that list.

    Sometimes what keeps me going is something I read in an Ann Landers column many years ago, not that I read her column regularly:

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

    I know 4 people that were successful:

    1. my godmother.
    2. my older brother
    3. a high school classmate
    4. a college classmate

    I have been on disability once, so far.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:10 pm | Report abuse |
    • Irina

      I wish you luck in fighting and finding joy.

      September 12, 2012 at 9:12 pm | Report abuse |
  44. The ones left behind

    Suicide hurts everyone. Even in cases of compassionate euthanasia hurts someone.

    That said...

    Suicide is as complex an issue as the diversity of the people who attempt it (and those who are left to deal with the results).

    I am proud of her for speaking out. I am proud of her for re-forming her life.

    That's all that matters in the end: Don't tell me what you're gonna do, or what your doing; tell me what you already did. Providing hope and inspiration to others is priceless...

    Be a human being who wants to create, to grow, to heal.

    September 12, 2012 at 3:09 pm | Report abuse |
  45. Mike

    Suicide may take away one person's pain but would add to many others. I have contemplated suicide many times but the images of my heartbroken family and friends comes to my mind. No man or women is ever a failure if they have friends remember that

    September 12, 2012 at 2:52 pm | Report abuse |
    • B-Dog

      Sorry... but there is no such thing as a suicide survivor.... just another thing you failed at. It's a cry for attention. When people really want to do it, they do.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Report abuse |
      • Roger

        I get your point but it is not valid. Unexpected events can always alter your plans. I plan on getting home this afternoon in 30 minutes but I can't control the traffic. No matter how bad I want or need to get home in 30 minutes, there will most likely be something that causes a traffic jam. ....ok, not the best example.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:51 pm | Report abuse |
  46. Kat

    There is a;ways hope, some people have to look harder and ignore some of these heartless people,

    September 12, 2012 at 2:46 pm | Report abuse |
    • Jon

      Its not people being "heartless". Life is tough. Everyone knows it. Everyone experiences it. Everyone goes through difficult stretches, where things don't go right, or where tragedy strikes. Everyone has something that can push them to the point of thinking that their life doesn't matter.

      But it is up to the individual to find meaning and to find a way to work through those difficulties. Life isn't always peachy. And since everyone has issues, you can't have people who wholly rely on others for support. It takes personal investment and effort to make life good and worth living.

      Its not a lack of compassion. Its truth.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:49 pm | Report abuse |
      • The ones left behind

        No, John, many here ARE being heartless.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:10 pm | Report abuse |
      • Mark

        Spoken from someone who doesn't know the depth of depression. I don't know either, but know lots of folks who do.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:20 pm | Report abuse |
      • Zach

        Are you a mental health professional? I'm going to guess no since you are advocating the "grow a spine" treatment. And you do lack compassion. Either you have no one in your family who suffers from mental illness or you are a sociopath.

        I guess my point is, you obviously have to direct experience with this subject, so don't share your thoughts. They are worthless and only serve to expose you as an ignoramus.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:23 pm | Report abuse |
        • Jon

          "Sociopath" is perhaps an apt description. However, it doesn't invalidate what I say. I'm not a "mental health professional" (though if you actually know any, you would know how mentally unstable THEY are), but I DO live life. And in that life, it has experienced hardships and difficulties like anyone else. Its irrational and foolish to say that people who don't feel the way you do either "don't get it" or "lack compassion". I'm not one to reveal sob stories and personal trauma to prove my point. Everyone has those stories; everyone lives on the same planet and has to deal with the same relative circumstances.

          I did not suggest that people "get over it" or "grow a spine" but that they work on finding whatever meaning to life that they need. People can not (will not) survive by solely relying on others to provide them with a meaningful existence.

          If you don't agree, that's fine. Don't really care. I'm expressing my view, and you are free to express yours. Thought I would suggest trying not to silence those who have a differing opinion than you by insulting them and telling them not to share. It could cause someone more sensitive than myself, who actually cares about others, to lose it emotionally, and we wouldn't want that....

          September 12, 2012 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
        • Edwin

          Jon: one of the most painful parts of depression and loss is how isolating it feels. Your comments may make sense to you, but attitudes like yours help isolate further. Your judgemental attitude does nobody a service.

          Consider this: you have basically told those people who are contemplating suicide that they should just learn to deal with life, that everybody ELSE has the same problems and can manage just fine. You've told them that they are weak for not handling things. If your goal was to push people further towards the brink, then you've succeeded.

          September 12, 2012 at 8:08 pm | Report abuse |
      • mcewen16

        So, Jon, do you tell people dying of cancer to buck up and get over it? Stop "wholly relying" on those measly doctors to fix things for them? Millions of other people get cancer and survive. So everyone should, right? Think through it before you say it, friend. Think through it.

        September 12, 2012 at 11:38 pm | Report abuse |
  47. Lokka

    Compasion – compasion – compasion.... please. We as human beings are every bit vulnerable to our changing circumstances and the man 30 ft tall this moment will succumb to emotional wounds the next minute and sob inconsalably at the edge of giving it all up. Lets help each other and hold one another's hands. There is no other way. please....

    September 12, 2012 at 2:28 pm | Report abuse |
    • jim

      Well said. Thank you.Now if we could only ge the other 6 billion to see it...

      September 12, 2012 at 2:48 pm | Report abuse |
  48. jim

    We have so many explanations for so many diseases today. If you pancreas packs it in, you get diabetes. If the arteries to you heart get clogged, you have a heart attack.
    But what I dont get is the total lack of understanding about mental illness. The brain is by far the most complex organ in your body. There are about 500 billlion synapses (communication points beween brain cells) in the average person. These synapsed control how you feel, how you think what your actions are. Why cant people accept that there are diseases that affect this extremely complex brain function, and lead to depression, schizophrenia, OCD, or any other of a myriad of mental illness., People that have these diseases are ill, just like a diabetic is.When are we going to see this, and start helping these people– god, so many ill souls lost to suicide every year. And all they really want is some understanding and help.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:24 pm | Report abuse |
    • Denise

      Bravo ! So well stated, thank you.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • Kyle

      I love when people say, "Just snap out of it". As if one could just snap out of diabetes. Oh I weep for humanity.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:10 pm | Report abuse |
  49. Bubba

    Doesn't surviving mean living through something you didn't have 100% control of. You have 100% control when it comes to suicide if you are doing it right. It should be you failed attempted suicide.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:22 pm | Report abuse |
    • Danielle

      What a nasty piece of work you are! If you have no understanding of mental illness, you should remain silent on the topic.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:37 pm | Report abuse |
      • Bubba

        I didn't say anything bad about mental illness or her story at all. I'm glad she is alive.

        I take exception to using the term "survivor" when it comes to suicide. The article should be "Living after attempted suicide."

        To survive after attempting not to survive is a contradiction. Depression can lead to suicide no doubt, but it's ultimately his or her own choice to commit suicide.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:07 pm | Report abuse |
    • JB

      You obviously have not know anyone who has commited suicide – you indeed are very heartless. Unfortunately, one of our family members felt that was his only way of dealing with things this year and commited suicide. No one can possibly know what is going through someone's head at the time they make the decision to end their life and what pushes them to the breaking point. As a family member dealing with the aftermath, there is a huge amount of guilt because you couldn't help your loved one, and always the question 'why'. I am glad that she got a second chance at life and is chosig to live rather than focus on what she attempted to do. Everyone has someone who loves and cares about them, I am glad her family has her back.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:08 pm | Report abuse |
  50. Dorinda

    Suicide is not a selfish act! There is a very thin line between reality and believing your depression state thoughts are real. Sometimes, when you are severely depressed, you can truly believe that you are a burden to everyone, that you are a bad mother, bad friend, bad worker... You believe that everyone would be better off without you and will soon forget you were ever here. I've been there and know that this is true. It takes a lot of hard work to get back across that thin line to reality again.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • jim

      Dorinda, you have obviously been there. So have I and I understaned what you are saying.
      God. bless and hoping you stay well. Remeber though, when the black dog bites (Winston Churchills description of his own depression). try to get the tools to kick him in the head.
      i feel for you- good luck

      September 12, 2012 at 2:29 pm | Report abuse |
      • Dorinda

        Thanks for your kind words, Jim. It was hard to write that because I didn't know what kind of replies I would get. You made me feel better about it.

        Hope you are doing well, too.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:53 pm | Report abuse |
    • liz_mk

      Remember, DEPRESSION LIES.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:01 pm | Report abuse |
    • Beth

      Thank you Dorinda. I don't think many people understand that it's not just a bad day, and you can't talk yourself out of it. You honestly become captive under the delusion that the world will be better off without you. It's a mental illness. I'm glad I'm no longer there, and I'm glad you aren't either.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:07 pm | Report abuse |
    • mcewen16

      Thanks, Dorinda. I didn't get far enough in the comments to see yours before writing my own to the same effect. I'm in the same boat, and I appreciate reading about someone else who feels that way and is scraping by anyway. We'll make it, right? 🙂 Keep up the fight!

      September 12, 2012 at 11:41 pm | Report abuse |
  51. MissMySon

    I am shocked at the comments on this site. My dear son took his life on May 8, 2010 at age 20. Every day I continue to live this horrible nightmare. If everyone that took the time to comment would just listen to one person that is struggling maybe just maybe we as a whole can help prevent someone from completing suicide.

    You have no idea what suicide does to the family and friends that love the person. It is excruciatingly painful. Suicide doesn't care if you are rich or poor, young or old, or even deemed mentally ill. It's happening way to often and we need to make more of an effort with our loved ones.

    As a mom having lost my son – I think most of these comments are totally uncalled for.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:13 pm | Report abuse |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      What is uncalled for is crying victim when you aren’t. I’m sorry this happened but it was not done TO you.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:31 pm | Report abuse |
      • Melinda

        Why dont you walk in her shoes, then tell me how it feels!!

        September 12, 2012 at 2:39 pm | Report abuse |
        • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

          Why? Would that then make me a victim?

          September 12, 2012 at 2:43 pm | Report abuse |
      • SnapinTurtle

        I don't recall the poster saying she was a victim. She was expressing her peronal grief and concern for other; neither of which require qualification from a Piper's Son.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:42 pm | Report abuse |
        • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

          Actually she is expressing her feelings over other people’s comments.

          I am shocked at the comments on this site.

          September 12, 2012 at 2:45 pm | Report abuse |
        • drb

          People who make these completely heartless and stupid remarks are only trying to get a reaction...dull life maybe..so ignore them. They are just pushing buttons and their words are meaningless.

          September 12, 2012 at 3:01 pm | Report abuse |
      • MissMySon

        Try spending a couple hours in a Suicide Support group meeting (for those who have lost loved ones to suicide) or hearing other parents who have lost their child to this horrible disease. Or walk 18 miles overnight in the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Out of the Darkness walk and see thousands feeling lost because of their loved one taking their own life. These may help you to see beyond your own darkness.

        Unless you have been there you couldn't possibly understand.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:45 pm | Report abuse |
        • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

          Understand what exactly? I think it’s shameful that you take something so tragic and make it about you.

          September 12, 2012 at 2:48 pm | Report abuse |
        • MissMySon

          Your a sad person Tom Tom.

          September 12, 2012 at 2:50 pm | Report abuse |
        • Rog

          So what are you saying Tom, that suicide has no impact on others? The people left behind shouldn't feel any pain? While one person has lost their life, the other people left have lost that person whether it's a child, friend, spouse. Unless they are unfeeling automatons they are not only entitled to feel pain it's human to do so.

          MissMySon I am sorry for your loss.

          September 12, 2012 at 3:39 pm | Report abuse |
        • Techguy

          Tom Tom, Have a glass of shut the hell up.

          September 12, 2012 at 3:46 pm | Report abuse |
        • Lynn

          Oh, Tom, Tom....You need to develop some compassion – you're quite the heartless human being – or come out from behind your anonymous post so that you can explain your way of thinking about suicide and its victims. Or, better yet, just stop posting; you are a complete waste of space.

          September 12, 2012 at 6:59 pm | Report abuse |
      • Matt

        I guess you have all the answers Tom Tom. Just because you CAN comment, doesn't mean you have to. You're just trying to get under the skin of someone who is vulnerable and taking pride in it. It's ok, karma always comes back around

        September 12, 2012 at 3:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • Melinda

      I agree! Im so sorry for the loss of your son and I feel your pain also. People do not understand that suicide is a different kind of death. The loss of my boyfriend hurts deep down to the core and rips me apart everyday. Please people stop joking about suicide, it is anything but a joke. Stay strong missmyson, thats all that we can do.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:37 pm | Report abuse |
    • jim

      I feel for you. Just try to remember your son did not take his own life- he had a horrible disease that took his life. I know he did not want to do it and hurt you. He had to do it to end his own agony- the agony of a disease called depression that nobody really unserstands except those who are depressed.
      Hang in there and know your son was ill- with a disease that is just as valid as cancer or a heart attack. Do not feel guitly, remember him, and , if your cicrcumstances allow, try to do something for the many many others who sit alone in thier appartnmets and battle this horrible affliction every day.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:40 pm | Report abuse |
    • 2blackcats

      I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. My former sister-in-law's sister took her own life at age 25. My next door neighbor's sister overdosed and died this summer. No one really knows what kind of pain another person is in to drive them to commit such drastic acts. It is so sad and deserves compassion and understanding. Period.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:53 pm | Report abuse |
    • kc

      Sorry for your loss. Ignore stupid people with sad lives that are looking for a reaction.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:24 pm | Report abuse |
    • S Bennett

      God Bless You. I lost my dear Brother to Suicide on January 6, 2010. No one can understand the pain and anquish it leaves behind unless you experience it yourself. It is not anything I would wish on my worst enemy. Where did I fail him? Why couldn't he reach out? The why, why, why...is the hardest.

      What is left is a lot of emotionally damaged people who have to live their lives as "normal". What is now "normal"????

      Help is out there for those who want it. It is our responsibility, if we can see it, to get that person help. The person suffering cannot help themselves. If only I had known or had recognized the signs, my dear Brother might still be alive.

      Don't judge others, have compassion and be thankful. I would love to have one last hug from Mike Hunter.

      September 12, 2012 at 3:40 pm | Report abuse |
  52. CitizenJP

    Let me tell you why she is a hero. She has been able to raise herself very high compared to where she was. How high have you been able to raise yourself where your status in life is? And she is doing something which takes courage to do – opening up to help others in similar situation.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:10 pm | Report abuse |
  53. JC

    Ya, keep "labeling" depression and mental illness as crazy and say things like; "put on your big boy pants" or "get over it".....We have entire political platforms for the needy and, this group, gets ignored and pushed into a corner....but lets make sure gay marriage is ok. (No, I am not against gay marriage, merely illustrating that it is not a primary issue and never should be....people are not, en masse, dying)

    September 12, 2012 at 2:09 pm | Report abuse |
    • JC

      It is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S....36,000 per year

      September 12, 2012 at 2:17 pm | Report abuse |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Poor example JC. People were not dying in masse over women’s voting rights ether but I guess that should have been ignored also.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:21 pm | Report abuse |
      • ChuckNorrisMF!

        Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son...I think the best thing would be if your mother had kept her legs closed and never spawned such a worthless PoS as yourself. To be so cruel without reason or compassion in the comments you have made. They serve absolutely no purpose – you have so wasted air that could have been used better for farts, just by continuing to breathe....I praise the day that something painful opens your eyes, and in that moment, realize what a crapper you have been to others...enjoy that horrible moment and be proud of yourself (bird)

        September 12, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Report abuse |
      • S Bennett

        Tom, Tom – I thought I have seen the worst of the worst of human beings over my life time, but you my dear friend has ranked #1. Continue your life on making other's miserable. You have my compassion and I hope on your death bed you have someone or a higher being there with you to hold your hand and miss you.

        God Bless You and whoever, whatever you chose to believe in, is there with you when your miserable life ends. I am sure there will be a lot of people spitting on your grave or urn.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:00 pm | Report abuse |
    • jim

      I know what you are saying and couldnt agree more. I have depression, and have been hospitalized for it twice, and had ECT. And in my "well" life I am a nice guy who everybody likes, and they have no concept of what happens to me when the depression hits. People who have not experienced it have no idea and coould not possibluy understand. God, its a horrible disease. I would trade it for cancer in a heartbeat.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:34 pm | Report abuse |
      • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

        As a person who has lost two close friends to cancer, I say you’re an idiot jim. People who have not experienced cancer have no idea and could not possibly understand…right?

        September 12, 2012 at 2:39 pm | Report abuse |
        • Dr. of Education

          Any cause of death is tragic – cancer, heart attack, suicide, etc. I don't think there is a #1 or a #20.

          September 12, 2012 at 7:35 pm | Report abuse |
      • jim

        Yeah you are right, and I probably should not have used that analogy. But depression kills as easily as cancer, I just wanted to make the point that it is totally misunderstood.
        And no, I am not an idiot, that was just plain mean

        September 12, 2012 at 2:45 pm | Report abuse |
        • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

          My apologies.. I suppose I’m a bit sensitive about the issue. But you are wrong about depression killing as easily. Please understand I’m not trying to diminish what you’ve had to go through.

          September 12, 2012 at 2:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • Mary

      Perhaps when those that hold the purse strings on society (read that as lawmakers and insurance companies) decide that mental health is important, society will change. Continuous cuts to social services and education, combined with insurance companies right to refuse use of benefits and NOT be sued for it, are destroying the health of the people.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:47 pm | Report abuse |
      • John

        Although it has never been diagnosed, I have probably had clinical depression for over 50 years. It started in college and somehow I got through it.

        Once I got out of college, I had bouts of depression which probably should have been treated. However, in post college days filling out a job application usually required disclosing whether you had ever been treated for a mental disorder. If you had been, and you indicated on your application that you had, it was usually detrimental far as getting that job was concerned. Guys just didn't go in for that type of therapy.

        Since I've been retired, the frequency and severity of my bouts has decreased, but I still have never sought help or told anyone about my bouts of depression.

        Hopefully, in 2012, being treated for depression or even discussing it, does not carry the stigma it once did.

        Does anybody know – do current laws prohibit asking that type of a question on a job application? I have not filled one out it years. If they still ask that sort of question, it may be one of the reasons why people don't go in for treatment.

        September 13, 2012 at 12:10 am | Report abuse |
  54. Lynn

    Well, Hot Carl....if you think you're being funny, you have a perverse sense of humor. If you actually feel this way, you are truly depraved and loathsome. And a coward. Why don't you post your name for all to see? People with depression need compassion, not nasty, judgmental comments from jerks like you.

    September 12, 2012 at 2:07 pm | Report abuse |
  55. Brathead

    @David......You are a worthless human being and I only HOPE that you are fortunate to live a long & miserable life for making comments like that. Wait until someone you know commits suicide, then tell me how you feel!!!! I would love to find you and beat the living sh** out of you right now!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:59 pm | Report abuse |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Threatening violence over a comment on the internet is also a good example of a ‘worthless human being’.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:36 pm | Report abuse |
    • Kat

      Thank you for making my day and I would love to join you. There is hope and people who care.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:48 pm | Report abuse |
  56. Daniel

    This was a touching story. Sometimes I am sad and don't want to get up, work and do it all over again. We all have sad thoughts from time to time. The world can be cruel. Most of us live to work. We put up with so much BS. War. Politics. pollution. And death. I have a lot to be thankful for, however, and know it can be much worse. I put on a good show but most of my friends have no idea I hate people and wish for a better place. I sometimes think about leaving this world, but I see my mom's face. And I see her crying. I hated to see her in pain when I was younger. If her oldest son took his life it would abolutely crush her. So, my family and the few good friends I have are keeping me here.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:58 pm | Report abuse |
  57. Easy E

    You can only say that because this is anonymous. If I had heard you say that in my presence you'd be missing a few teeth for that stupid remark.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:57 pm | Report abuse |
  58. Stunned

    So how does this story about a young woman who has survived a sucide attempt turn into catholic bashin

    September 12, 2012 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
  59. CitizenJP

    Your judgment is guaranteed to change when you face her situation. In fact, one day unfortunately we all have to face the same situation we pass judgment on just to develop right understanding. Do what you can to make someone's life better not worse. Kristen is a hero for opening up about her situation in the hope that it can help another person. Treat her like it.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:54 pm | Report abuse |
  60. Jacksmith

    Number 1 shut the hell up you no good fat man who is making this hot girl who almost killed her self the bad person .

    September 12, 2012 at 1:47 pm | Report abuse |
  61. David

    I have suffered from depression in the past. For those who don't understand, imagine if you were in intense physical pain that lasted 24 hours a day that never went away. Wouldn't you want the pain to end? Depression is a similar kind of pain, a pain in the mind. People who want to commit suicide are seeking to put an end to their pain.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:45 pm | Report abuse |
    • Robert.

      Suicide isn't the only end though. The pain felt is a chemical interaction. If those Chemical interactions are limited or changed the pain subsides. You can live and also be happy.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:56 pm | Report abuse |
      • David

        Yes of course. I am not advocating suicide, just trying to explain why some people attempt it.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:10 pm | Report abuse |
      • Jackie

        Of course there are usually answers other than suicide, but when a person is-and has been-in the depths of depression, that person loses contact with the kind of rational thought which would allow them to see any other possiblities.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:38 pm | Report abuse |
    • Lisa

      I have to agree with you on this, it is like a horrible, never-ending pain. No matter what you are doing it haunts you. It effects all aspects of your life. You completely and utterly believe that the world would be better off without you. You feel like a failure, like you do nothing but cause people pain and suffering, and that you would do them a favor by removing yourself from their lives. I have suffered a lot of physical pain in my life, but absolutely nothing compares to the anguish caused by severe depression.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:02 pm | Report abuse |
  62. TC

    Silly Troll. Hopefully, someday your own parent or child won't be standing in the face of death, your words in their ears. It's a lot less funny when it's one of your lvoed ones.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:41 pm | Report abuse |
  63. Robert.

    What a terrible thing to say David, but that's probably why you said it, for the shock and awe. Still, it's important to note that there are many very successful people who commit suicide. It really has nothing to do with success or failure, but instead your chemical outlook on life.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:37 pm | Report abuse |
  64. Ruby

    Not at all. Her encounter with the train was a desperate effort to escape an intolerably dark place in her life, and so she has.
    I hope you will also.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:36 pm | Report abuse |
  65. Randy Watson

    Miserable prick makes mean comment on the Internet shocker! More at 11.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:35 pm | Report abuse |
  66. Analystgirl

    A bout of severe depression gripped me around 10 years ago. Suicide was always on my mind. My condition was dismissed by my mother who was supposedly a MFCC (Family Therapist) as 'just a little depressed'. Like I was just having a bad day! When in fact I was so paralyzed by depression I couldn't get from my bed to my front room for months. It took medication and lots of counselling to bring me back to a functioning state. it is terrrifying and should not be diminished by those who do not understand it. It may be selfish to commit suidcide but I totally understand the hopelessness. God luck to you Kristen, and thank you for speaking up!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:34 pm | Report abuse |
    • Mac

      It is a very dangerous time for young adults. I had a bout of bad depression when I was in college and I will never forget it. I never sought treatment and somehow got through it after a couple of years. I am glad that somehow I had enough faith that things would get better some day. I gradually felt better and have never felt like that again. I think like John Lennon said, whatever gets you through the night, if it be religion, friends, or exercise – just make sure that you get through the night!

      September 12, 2012 at 2:23 pm | Report abuse |
  67. Sam

    She is trying to help people because she sees clearly now. Like people who lose weight and then become personal trainers helping others. Some people build others up and help other people, others like you like to criticize and make fun of others. You could make the world a better place by changing and becoming a good person, a builder and a helper. Don't be such a steaming pile of crap!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:28 pm | Report abuse |
  68. Amused

    Depression is a crushing condition (rust me, I've been there) and telling someone to 'just get over it' is about as callous and lacking in empathy and understanding as you can get. While gripped by depression, there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better, nothing you can do to cheer up. People in real depression are not 'just depressed'. If it was a temporary thing, there would be far fewer suicides around the world. The worst thing that depression does is that it robs you of hope. If you believe, even for a second that things will get better, you will not be taking your own life, or even attempting. Depression prevents hope, and that is it's most powerful and dangerous weapon.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:26 pm | Report abuse |
    • abqtim

      Now that's the best explanation of why sucides happen to depressed folks...thanks for that.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • Jackie

      I once heard depression described as filtering everything around you through a black cloud. I tend to see it more as the kind of cloud they always showed surrounding Pigpen in the Peanuts comc strips. While his was dirt, mine is a very dark and very dense cloud. Many, many years ago I was in the midst of one of my dark periods and I actually could physically feel that cloud start to lift off of me when it got ready to go away.At that point in time, I saw it as a weakness (probably because those around me treated it as such) and I just treaded water as I waited for the spells to pass. As I got older though, the dark times became darker, denser, and longer. It got to the point where I was't treading water. I wasn't even getting to come up for a breath. I now take medication and go to counseling. I don't know where or IF I would be if it were not for those 2 things. Also, the public awareness, especially the increased understanding by those around me-regarding depression has benefited all of us greatly.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:47 pm | Report abuse |
  69. The point

    Glad you made it out okay. Please ignore the trolls, who post their anonymous insults like the cowards they are. Everybody makes mistakes and does foolish things. The person who survives the suicide attempt is not a failure, but, often someone who becomes stronger for surviving such a low point in life. And hopefully helps others see their way safely through the "dark night of the soul" people go through, as you're doing. Good luck to you, Kristen.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:25 pm | Report abuse |
  70. Joyce

    While some are well thought out, there are too many glib answers here about how to prevent suicide.

    People who contemplate suicide are not considering it lightly; they know it's a permanent solution, and they are suffering so much that the problem does not seem surmountable.

    The worst thing someon can do when dealing with someone who is suicidal is to brush it off, or dismiss it as "a permanent solution to a temporary problem", or assume that the person can pull him or her self out of it. And if you are anti shrink or anti medication, keep it to yourself. You are not being helpful if you dismiss possible alternatives to suicide, just because you are opposed to them.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:24 pm | Report abuse |
  71. pat marshall

    Any one that says she failed in life has not been in those shoes. Making value judgments saying she failed in life is sick and unacceptable. I have been there and one thing I have learned is how many people I would have hurt by completing the attempt. Satan is a liar and will do anything to break our covenant with the LORD...

    September 12, 2012 at 1:24 pm | Report abuse |
  72. Melinda

    Suicide needs to be taken very seriously, I lost my boyfriend last year to suicide. The more educated society is about suicide prevention the better. If anyone even makes a comment about ending their own life, do everything in your power to help them. There is a website for suicide prevention afsp.org. There is help for those suffereing from depression etc. so please spread the word. Every life is important and worth saving!!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
  73. urmomtoo

    Mean people suck!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • Sam

      Yes they do! I am glad she is still alive! For all those who say she should try again, maybe they should try it on themselves just to see how that works out.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:25 pm | Report abuse |
  74. Sam

    You shut up too! I wish all judgmental sacks of crap like you would move back under the pile of brimstone you crawled out from beneath!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
  75. Dirb

    What is wrong with sucide? It is not a selfish act. Isn't it selfish of those around the person to expect him/her live no matter how intolerable their life is. Lets say you went to dinner with family, friends and a few people you do not know. You do not get to choose what you get to eat but food is brought out to you. Some people love the food and eat like there is no tomorow. Some people thought it was ok but they were hungry enough to eat it. Then it there is you. You hated the food and could not stomach more bite. The people around you are telling you have to eat it. It is the right thing to do. You can't eat anymore. Should you force yourself to eat or should you get up? The answer to that question is what I seek. Why should I feel that the choice of sucide is bad option just because everyone else either loves life or tolerates it. I don't. Why is that wrong?

    September 12, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • Anne

      Nothing wrong with suicide if someone feels a need to take themselves out. However clear up your stuff before you go and make sure everyone knows the reason when you have gone. Its selfish to leave others to wonder why you commited suicide or to clear your mess up you leave after.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:40 pm | Report abuse |
      • Chris

        Suicide and rape are the two cases in which the victims are often blamed.
        Do you really think the people who commit suicide are in any state of mind for "cleaning up their stuff"? if your brain is all messed up with terribly dark thoughts, would you really be functional to clean things up?
        I suggest you talk with a grief counselor and learn to let go of the anger. And no, anger does not need to be a stage in grief.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
    • Michael

      Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Circumstances change. Unless there's a terminal illness involved, suicide isn't the only solution.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:43 pm | Report abuse |
      • Chris

        People with real depression cannot see that there is light at the end of the tunnel. They can't see that things can get better. Untreated depression is a life-long, terminal, disease.
        And people dismissing depression as a real disease are part of the problem when they should strive to find a solution.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:50 pm | Report abuse |
    • Chris

      It is not wrong in the sense that I will not blame my fiance for killing himself.
      It is wrong in the sense that no one should feel that suicide is their only solution. What is wrong is that those people's feelings should not be dismissed and they should not have to hide them. They should get help and hopefully not want to kill themselves anymore. What is wrong is that depression is still not considered by many like a real and severe disease.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:48 pm | Report abuse |
    • Brathead

      Suicide is selfish because you do not think about the impact it has on the ones you leave behind. Do you have a mother & a father or children of your own? If so please pause for a second and think of what would happen to them if you took your own life, what would their life become? Comparing this to food at a restaurant is not even close. With suicide there are so many things that are left un-answered. I've dealt with a lot of death in my life. It's part of life. But when someone CHOOSES to take their own life it is so much harder to cope with. My friend never told me anything about what was going on with her, she took her own life in March of this year. I know she was having some problems but never dreamed she was suicidal. People don't realize the guilt that people feel when they have lost a loved one to suicide. A lot of people will blame themselves for not being able to stop it. I've been through all of these emotions in the past 6 months. My conclusion is my friend already had her mind made up and did not want to be stopped. By telling me what she was planning, she knows I would have taken any means necessary to try & stop her.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:55 pm | Report abuse |
      • Phil

        Brad, I absolutely agree with you. I do have High Levels of Anxiety and a very high Level of depression. When I had gotten knocked down I have sunk so low that suicide is an option. I have three kids and a fiancee that loves me dearly. This is hard to explain but I really don't see them in the picture when the feeling comes about me. It is like I guess when you get like this, it is called tunnel vision and you only see thing. It really sucks. I know I would hurt them but at that point I don't care. I am going to a therapist, so I hope this help?

        September 12, 2012 at 2:14 pm | Report abuse |
    • Jules

      I had a good friend who killed himself due to an inoperable brain tumor that was making him lose himself. He said goodbye to everyone and took a bunch of morphine after settling his affairs. Not selfish. I had a friend who killed himself leaving behind a pregnant wife with two children and a financial mess he had hidden from her. He jumped of a building in NYC in front of a large number of people who had to live with that. Selfish.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm | Report abuse |
    • Been There Too

      Your analogy is not very good. Even though you decide not to eat, get up and leave. You are still able to be invited back and try again. After suicide, not so much.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • abqtim

      It's selfesh if there are people who depend on you and love you and then you just kill yourself just because you don't want to live for your own selfesh reasons. What about the people who need you and love you. I'm certain my family (wife and kid) would be mad if I killed myself and probably my own parents and sisters wouldn't think much of my decision either... "Bye! Thanks for all the trouble and money raising me mom and dad, love you a bunch, now I'm going to kill myseflf and destroy what you created because I hate it!!!!!"

      September 12, 2012 at 2:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • LinkMind

      Hi Dirb. I definitely understand where you're coming from with this. I've often considered suicide and I've never completely ruled it out of my life. My parents and sister would be devastated if I ever went through with it and that certainly is enough to give me pause during the times I've thought about it. However I would hope that they would understand that I am the one living my life and that I can't live simply for their happiness.

      I do not ever believe that suicide is a bad thing for a person. If someone wants to end their lives badly enough that they can overcome their fear of death and do what is necessary to accomplish it then it must be the right choice for them. I think part of the problem is simply from the majorities point of view. Religious ideas like "hell" and "souls" confound reasonable attempts to look at the issue objectively. When people lend greater weight to the value of life than actually exists it is hard for them to ever understand someone who values it so little or not at all.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:28 pm | Report abuse |
      • Dirb

        Thank-you LinkMind. I know my parents will never understand but I do know one of my brothers would understand if I went through with this. I know I can live for no one but myself and there are beliefs instilled in me that I fight. I struggle everyday. We will see. I wish you luck in your life.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:29 pm | Report abuse |
  76. Sam

    I wish you would shut your mouth or maybe you should stand in front of a train. I can't think of a worse thing to say about somebody depressed enough to end their life. I am glad she survived! You are 1 more person that makes this world not a very nice place to live in sometimes. Shame on you!

    September 12, 2012 at 1:19 pm | Report abuse |
  77. A

    I feel for people who get to this point. A few of my friends have gotten close to this point. We all have our lives and "crap" happens.
    People get through with whatever it means. A lot of people turn to Religion. This girl did, too. However, I truly hope that people in this case don't bash others and push religion on people. That is just as bad.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:15 pm | Report abuse |
  78. pmn

    Stop troll. Why don't you add to your to do list...1. I will seek my heart today, 2. Treat others with kindness and respect...etc. Or is that too much for you to handle?

    September 12, 2012 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
    • David

      But the OP is right. She shouldn't be made heroic for attempting to die. Found God? Good for you? Talking to others about suicide? Not needed. Stop telling people how to live or not live their lives.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:12 pm | Report abuse |
  79. davidloc

    Wow , what a heartless bunch. Depression isn't overeating little retarded boy with the 12 big macs comment, it is a mental health issue that needs treatment.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:07 pm | Report abuse |
  80. pmn

    She has second chance at life. She is not claiming to be a hero but rather preventing other from attempting suicide. Really did you go to school?! Comprehension is a good thing.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:03 pm | Report abuse |
    • David

      I love you at preaching reading comprehension when it's a video....

      September 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • David

      Wow, predictive text rape on that one. And we all know that rape is rape.

      Anyways, yeah, it's a video. No reading required.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:18 pm | Report abuse |
  81. JD

    It's a nice sentiment to try to help others with depression but unfortunate that this young woman's recovery and outreach are mired in god-belief. That's simply exchanging one mental illness for another.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:02 pm | Report abuse |
    • Robert.


      September 12, 2012 at 1:15 pm | Report abuse |
    • boop

      amen, kinda ruins it.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm | Report abuse |
    • J

      Most of your godless friends have ended their own lives...speaks to where that philosophy leads. I'll keep my "mental illness".

      September 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm | Report abuse |
      • Sam

        Thanks for your reply! I will keep my faith in God and feel sad for all those who go to hell for not believing and treating believers like they have a mental illness.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:22 pm | Report abuse |
      • Robert.

        Like I said in another post, "If you use a belief in God to change your chemical outlook on life great, but remember it's all in your head."

        September 12, 2012 at 1:22 pm | Report abuse |
        • zai

          Are you sure? Can you prove God DOESN'T exist?

          September 12, 2012 at 1:32 pm | Report abuse |
        • Robert.

          Can you prove he does (Zai)? the trend of regression by religion and the God explaination (ie: the God of the gaps) does Can you prove he does (Zai)? the trend of regression by religion and the God explanation (i.e.: the God of the gaps) does tend to show that it's not credible. The earth isn't the center of the universe and is older than 6000 years, man evolved, the universe evolved, matter is created through particle interactions with the Higgs field, lighting is due to a potential difference in the earth atmosphere, and so on... BTW while you’re trying to prove that God does exist think about trying to prove Santa Clause.tend to show that it's not credible. The earth isn't the center of the universe and is older than 6000 years, man evolved, the universe evolved, matter is created through partical interactions with the higgs field...

          September 12, 2012 at 1:47 pm | Report abuse |
        • Robert.

          sorry about the first sentence being posted twice.

          September 12, 2012 at 1:48 pm | Report abuse |
    • John6:54

      Sorry that you have phoned the Big Guy in the sky yet.....without Him I would be divorced and maybe have ended up hooked on alcohol or worse. Jesus condemned openly those who would deny God, even Jewish religious leaders....being smart is not a cure for faith, it is what blinds you from faith!

      September 12, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
      • You're all crazy

        So if you hadn't found god, you wouldn't be stuck in a marraige that you're probably miserable in. Good work on that one.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:43 pm | Report abuse |
        • DEFEND

          You're all crazy,

          September 13, 2012 at 9:29 am | Report abuse |
    • Yo Mama

      Athiesm is a religion too. There are as many zealots there as there are in other religions.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
      • Insufferable Pedant

        "A belief in a divine being" could have a broader meaning that you are stating. If you believe with all your heart that there is no God, that is a belief in a divine being. It's a belief of negation, but a belief nonetheless. Only strict, literal agnosticism holds no belief in a divine being.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:57 pm | Report abuse |
      • J

        It's a philosophy/worldview, just like any religion.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:58 pm | Report abuse |
        • JD

          really? So what are the tenets of atheism? What are its holy texts? It is no more a philosophy or worldview than any other single position on a single topic. It is nothing more or less than the lack of belief in a deity. If you think it more than that you assume too much and show yourself the fool.

          September 12, 2012 at 3:54 pm | Report abuse |
        • Robert.

          It's really not a religion. There is no evidence for a God therefor we don't propose there is one. It's just that simple.

          September 12, 2012 at 4:42 pm | Report abuse |
      • Robert.

        Religion is like the cigarette industry, if people tried to start it up in today it would be completely rejected. The only reason it's still accepted is because it was created so long ago. There is no evidence for a God, and with the knowledge base in the world today there would be no reason to suggest a God as the answer to questions like: why is there lightning? why does it rain? where does mass come from?... Because we have the answers to these questions and more.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:35 pm | Report abuse |
    • CitizenJP

      If God were to be a mental illness, your very essence would be an illness. The concept of God may be mental but the Truth beyond all concepts is transcendental to the mind. Therefore God or the Supreme Existence is not a mental illness.

      If someone is getting joy and hope from a mental illness (in your words) what is wrong with that? I am sure you do many trivial things to get a glimmer of joy and hope yourself.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:02 pm | Report abuse |
      • JD

        You should google Andrea Yates. Indeed a lot of people 'get by' on unfounded beliefs without harming others but many many of them are worse off for it. It is simply not a good practice to believe ideas without reasonable support. It is a pathology of the mind that rots ones powers of reasoning – and morality.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:57 pm | Report abuse |
      • Robert.

        "If God were to be a mental illness, your very essence would be an illness."
        This statement is not logical, because it assumes that God exists in the first place. Since there is no evidence for a God, there is no basis for this statement. This just shows how deeply indoctrinated you are.

        I propose this: If there is no God then there will be nothing that is explained with God that can't be explained with something else. Since that which has been explained with God has been explained with the laws of physics, I propose there is no God. If somehow God sits in parallel with the laws of physics then so do Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, and Fairies.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:50 pm | Report abuse |
  82. Stephen

    Suicide is OK, except that if God still leaves you alive in this world and if there are still things you can contribute to the world, don't kill yourself, please. In short, it is not up to me to kill myself, it is up to God, or nature.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:01 pm | Report abuse |
    • pmn

      Yeah that's right Stephen.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:06 pm | Report abuse |
    • Todd

      yes, especially if the good lord wants to have you raped and killed, or to suffer from cancer. he does that to kids sometimes in his great love. ~puke~

      September 12, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Report abuse |
      • NC

        Nice post...

        September 12, 2012 at 2:26 pm | Report abuse |
      • abqtim

        Convienient how you forget about the opposite of God and instead decide to blame God for the sins that man allows or even invites and welcomes into his life.

        September 12, 2012 at 2:42 pm | Report abuse |
    • Robert.

      NO. your actions are your own, there is no God. Instead, know that your out look on life is due to chemical interactions that can be changed, you can live and be happy. If you use a belief in God to change your chemical outlook on life great, but remember it's all in your head.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:21 pm | Report abuse |
      • Sam

        You got your words from the Devil. He teaches men not to believe in God, but he has the easiest time teaching stupid people who call themselves intellectuals and scientists. Good luck leading people to your stupid point of view.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:24 pm | Report abuse |
        • Robert.

          LOL, people like you are sadly delusional. But you're right, intellect and a disbelief in God do seem to go hand in hand, but you probably won't understand what that means.

          September 12, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Report abuse |
        • Irina

          Hahaha. I had a neighbor who was convinced that he saw Devil who came to his room at night. When his wife turned on the light, it was his dog.

          September 12, 2012 at 9:43 pm | Report abuse |
  83. pmn

    I wish that anyone even thinking of suicide would just take a deep breath and realize it will pass. Whatever they are feeling is not the end of the world..it is just emotions. Life is full of ups and downs. I wish that anyone in this situation would reach out and not shut out. Always shove out the negative and embrace the positive thoughts. Pray and believe in yourself. Please anyone thinking of suicide please reach out...it helps to talk.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:56 pm | Report abuse |
    • Jackie

      I have a friend who has told me more than once that there was one time in her life when she was depressed and then one of her children came in. The depression lifted and since then she has never let herself get like that again. She tends to tell me to snap out of it, etc. The problem is what she experienced isnt even close to the type of ongoing clinical depression I live with on a daily basis. She really can't relate to what I am saying. As I read the various comments, I can usually tell which people either suffer from depression themselves or have known someon who suffered and those who just have no concept what the rest of us are talking about. I don't mean that as an insult; merely an observation.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:59 pm | Report abuse |
  84. Bayousara

    What did she do to get help before she attempted suicide? Or do we have to buy the book? Suicide hurts those left behind, so these stories irritate me in their self-centeredness.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:56 pm | Report abuse |
    • Nephthys48

      Trying to help others is self centered? Yes, suicide hurts those left behind. I know from experience. I'll never be the same. But unless you've suffered from depression you cannot understand how debilitating it is. How you just want out. How it crushes you day after day. So I applaud her for trying to help & I'm glad she survived. Glad for her & for those that love her.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:21 pm | Report abuse |
    • Sam

      I am amazed how people keep living without a heart! Maybe go buy one and see if it will make you not be such a giant heartless pile of crap!

      September 12, 2012 at 1:30 pm | Report abuse |
  85. bob

    To anyone who is making fun of this person, I hope you never end up in as dark a place as a person has to be in order to seriously wish for death. It is not a place you ever totally come back from.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:53 pm | Report abuse |
  86. Seyedibar

    Suicide is a very natural instinct. In the wild, an animal knows when it's life is useless and certain instincts can lead to its culling itself from the herd. It's an evolutionary defense for saving resources. I see nothing truly wrong with it, other than it just being sad to speak about. But there's quite enough people on the planet to go around, so a person here or there isn't missed by anyone but those who knew them directly.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • airsucker

      And you haven't done it, why?

      September 12, 2012 at 1:03 pm | Report abuse |
    • yoyo

      EXACTLY! It can be a pragmatic subtraction. Every single living thing has to and will die. So when/how isn't all that important. We're all carbon atoms and none of it will matter millennia from now. If there is ONE thing a person "owns" in this world/life, it is his/her protoplasm (and heart and skin, and eyeballs) and each should do with them what s/he wants! It is considered "immoral" if you damage someone else in the process, so don't leap off a building and land on someone, and don't lie (not lay) down on train tracks because you are condemning the engineer to kill you. Kill yourself alone and carefully. There are lots of ways. It doesn't have to be sad! It's just death, and death is sooo ordinary. I think it's cruel to prevent people from killing themselves if they simply want out/away.

      September 12, 2012 at 8:43 pm | Report abuse |
  87. steve

    Kids are so screwed up today.
    They are worried about what other people think of them. And look at the role models. Everyone getting a devorce, there covered in tatooes, the music sucks, the only jobs are working at wal-mart.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:34 pm | Report abuse |
    • Nate

      Some of the things you people are saying are horible and i really hope you think about it and remember what you said bc someday when one of your friends family children or mabye you yourself try committing suicide you will have a very different view. mabye one day youl realize the things you say can affect people more than you would ever know.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:46 pm | Report abuse |
    • pmn

      Nice boost of confidence you can provide. I find you would be no help for these kids. Its negativity that brings people down. You should be positive in life and share only positive energy with others. Pass it along. It does not fix everything but it helps.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:52 pm | Report abuse |
    • Seyedibar

      I'm not sure what is wrong with divorce, tattoos, or music. Those all sound like good things to me.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:53 pm | Report abuse |
      • doubledees


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    • Bayousara

      I won't hire people who are covered with tatoos. They are hideous, just like nose and lip rings. Put them in private places if you have to have them. And aren't you going to look ridiculous when you are old and wrinkled with wrinkled tatoos. Body builders look awful when they get old (Arnold Swartz.......) They are one bag of sags.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:58 pm | Report abuse |
      • Tcall

        See, now you have that right. I think it's silly, but that's my right. As for what the ink may look like as one ages, that's really not anyone's concern but the person who's body it adorns. But to denigrate others who choose to adorn themselves differently from the "norm"? That's pretty rude and I'm quite sure you wouldn't want yourself or your loved one treated rudely simply for wearing khakis. Treat others as you yourself would like to be treated.

        September 12, 2012 at 4:41 pm | Report abuse |
    • Akira

      Post something relevant or gtfo.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:04 pm | Report abuse |
      • Jackie

        Here! Here! Bravo, Akira! Discussions (aka insulting those who think differently from you) regarding God, no God, religion, no religion, tattoos, etc have absolutely ZERO to do with the subject on this site. I do not understand why some people have to turn any and every discussion about any and every topic into a referendum mudslinging session about anything and everything EXCEPT the actual topic at hand.

        September 12, 2012 at 3:07 pm | Report abuse |
    • anna

      You hit the nail right on the head!

      Kids today have no morals, dont speak english properly and have to respect for anyone, themselves included.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm | Report abuse |
  88. Michael

    Why do people commit suicide. Just read some of the post here. It can be a cold world for many and others have no faith in anything. I don't need to listen to her story. It repeats itself so many times. Some survive with friends and God, others do not. Why not practice love and giving and faith, it may change your life for the better.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:32 pm | Report abuse |
  89. N. Unya

    Suicide Prevention Checklist

    1. Don’t buy the BS anyone is trying to sell you.
    2. Have, and stick to, an exercise regimen that includes aerobic exercise
    3. Eat right, and take a multivitamin every day.
    4. Don’t use depressants, including alcohol
    5. Get a pet that requires you to go outside in the sunlight
    6. Have at least one, but preferably more, real live, face-to-face social venues that you participate in and attend regularly
    7. Make and work toward a plan for your future, even if it isn’t your ideal future
    8. Remember times in your past when things were terrible, and remember that you did indeed get through them, and use that thought to derail your current sense of having no options and to bolster your belief in your ability to get through it
    9. You are the only person who is constant in your life. Be there for yourself; rely on yourself; be a friend to yourself; encourage yourself to make it and to find strategies to get past your current depression.
    10. Make an effort to help other people

    September 12, 2012 at 12:30 pm | Report abuse |
    • Henry

      N. Unya – While many of those do help it is important to remember that for many people depression is a medical issue and requires medical treatment.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:35 pm | Report abuse |
      • TJ

        It's only a medical issue if one subscribes to the "Medical Model of Mental Illness". I do not. And that's not to say, for some, medical reason are or aren't the issue. Only exams and tests can truly determine that. Not "guesswork".

        In short, and for many; quit whining, sück it up, and start taking charge of your life. Been there, done that. And it wasn't 'til I nearly took my own life that I realized very near the end, how precious life is, and how much better it is given the "alternative". I was fortunate – I was able to pull out, barely surviving it (though there was no one around me).

        And lastly, do NOT think that, by kiIling yourself you're going to spite anyone. The person you hurt the most IS yourself, and while some may not think themselves worthy of this life – life can take sudden positive turns you'd never expect.

        September 12, 2012 at 12:49 pm | Report abuse |
        • asdf

          You're very fortunate that your issues were able to be solved by just "sucking it up" and "quitting your whining". For some, that works, and I truly am happy for you. For others, though, the problem is more severe, and your advice is belittling rather than supportive for those that need professional help. Depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by trauma, chemical imbalances, mental illness, and other severe and very real causes should not be lumped into the same category as "I was sad too, but I got over it".

          September 12, 2012 at 12:59 pm | Report abuse |
        • Henry

          Depression is detectable with a MRI scan...I guess that makes it medical.

          September 12, 2012 at 4:13 pm | Report abuse |
        • Joe

          Two of the causes of depression are the body's inability to balance Dopamine and/or Serotonin, which is a medical problem. 'Sucking it up' won't fix that. It is sort of like telling a cancer patient that rainbows will cure their cancer.

          September 12, 2012 at 4:16 pm | Report abuse |
        • Lori

          It doesn't sound like you got over it. It sounds like you moved into depression caused anger and irritability. I know from years of practice that if you don't get help your crash is going to be very bad.

          September 12, 2012 at 4:19 pm | Report abuse |
      • asdf

        Definitely. Seeking professional help and advice (whatever forms of therapy are appropriate for the individual – counseling, medication, etc.) should be added to that list as well.

        September 12, 2012 at 12:50 pm | Report abuse |
    • asdf

      Thank you! Good advice, and you can count yourself as having just fulfilled #10. At the risk of adding an ungainly 11th tip, I'd suggest a regular sleep schedule to go along with healthy eating and exercising. Sometimes the hardest thing is getting out of bed in the morning, but staying in bed to hide just makes you feel like crap about yourself later... Getting up on a schedule helps stop the "just a little while longer" snowball effect.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:46 pm | Report abuse |
    • brown

      Good advice. Thank you.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:09 pm | Report abuse |
    • Beth

      That's a great list and great reminders for everyone. Just last night my doorbell rang and there stood a woman I didn't recognize. After she spoke, I realized it was someone I used to work with but hadn't seen in several years. She had just filled a Rx and came over because she couldn't decide if she wanted to die by OD or by hanging. Caught me COMPLETELY off guard. Invited her in. She talked. I asked questions and listened. Two hours later I gave her the choice of me calling her husband or the police. She didn't like those choices, but that's what I gave her. Only because I know her husband was I able to feel OK about sending her home with him. I've checked in with her today. She's been suicidal for 35 (yes THIRTY FIVE) years. I go back and forth between compassion and frustration with her. In the end, I do not judge because I haven't been there. I care as best I can – recognizing my own limits as well.

      September 12, 2012 at 4:02 pm | Report abuse |
    • dana

      I LOVE your happiness list... I am printing it out for my cube at work!! such great advice..

      September 12, 2012 at 6:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • yoyo

      hahahahah! Multivitamin!!!!! hahahahaha!! Talk about expensive urine.....

      Your advice doesn't work if someone's PRESENT isn't really livable. Why let nature decide when you go? If you've lived long enough, in your view, hop off the carousel. Soylent Green. Monkey House. I don't want to live particularly long; it just doesn't interest me. It's not necessarily depression; I exercise every day and have a great family and a great place to live and yes, two wonderful pets, and I have always done volunteer work. But so what.....it's all just a blip.....so why does it matter if I die at 60 or at 80? Older generations have to cede resources to younger ones; it's the way of all things.

      September 12, 2012 at 8:51 pm | Report abuse |
    • johnny

      thats a good checklist, i need to read it and do it. Ive been inside all day and nite, and its beautiful outside. Things are tough, not alot of positive at all, in fact major negatives in my life for a long long time. but im getting thru by reaching out eventually, have 2 people now talking to me somewhat regularly. I need to excercise, im letting myself go to a waste. each day is a struggle, but your list is true and good if i can get myself to follow it. thanx.

      September 12, 2012 at 10:54 pm | Report abuse |
  90. Dan Szematowicz - CNN

    Thanks to everyone for your feedback on the headline. We've updated it to reflect your comments. Thanks for listening and reading!

    September 12, 2012 at 12:28 pm | Report abuse |
  91. the_dude

    CNN I believe the term is "attempted suicide".

    A lot of bad stuff has happened to me as well. I didn't get a lot of the stuff I wished for like money and cars so I am sad and depressed. Its really sad because I had hope for life and have lots of fun toys and money to party. Now I am sad.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:27 pm | Report abuse |
    • Les

      Well, maybe if you get raped like she did, you'd be even more sad.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:47 pm | Report abuse |
    • Marie

      Life is precious, it is a God given gift there is always someone who is worst of, before cars people survived,
      during the great depression people survived, too many of us look for happiness in the material things when
      we should be finding happiness in what we physically have.
      You need to work for the things you want nothing is free in life, so if you want something work for it, you will
      appreciate things you work for much more than things that are handed to you.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:52 pm | Report abuse |
  92. Karen

    God bless you. Your were lost and God saved you. I am so happy you were able to overcome the horrible things you were dealing with. I've been there. Many people have been there but are too afraid to talk about it. Suicide and it's attempts hurt not only yourself but all those who love you and I'm while you felt no one loved you.. someone did. You are amazing and I pray your mission reaches people who need inspiration the most.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:25 pm | Report abuse |
    • Seyedibar

      I'm pretty sure she convinced hersel to livef, not some imaginary cartoon character in the sky. Adding gods to the mix belittles her decision to survive.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:55 pm | Report abuse |
    • lhrmk

      God doesn't save people. People save themselves. God doesn't intervene, remember? Why would you think god would save a single person, but let millions of innocent people die at the hands of a few??

      September 12, 2012 at 3:37 pm | Report abuse |
  93. Robert Gavila

    This is a story that many teenagers need to hear.

    Thank you, Kristen.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:20 pm | Report abuse |
  94. Cathy Silver

    Please enter respectful dialogue here. I lost my daughter to suicide last January. This woman and article is a powerful testimony to courage to move forward with the light of life. The problem lies in the undetected and helping anyone whether undetected or not. My daughter was a successful wedding photographer, beautiful, loved, had many many friends, and her suicide came as a complete shock to all. Depression and mental health issues are very real. If you are reading this and have depression please get to your physician or counselor and get help today. Don't wait. My blessings to all suffering depression and to the survivors of suicide.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:20 pm | Report abuse |
    • Anthony

      I'm sorry for your loss, suicide is something that has touched my life as well. I had a friend and a family memeber commit suicide. I understand how much of a shock it can be, and join you in asking people to be respectfull in their comments. I'm glad you have the strength to discuss it openely, especially since it was your daughter that you lost. If I were in your shoes I don't think I would.

      September 12, 2012 at 12:29 pm | Report abuse |
    • pmn

      My thoughts and prayers are with you on the loss of your daughter. I could not imagine the pain you endure everyday. God bless you!

      September 12, 2012 at 12:59 pm | Report abuse |
    • Joanne Mazzotta

      Dear Cathy I also lost a child to suicide. I pray Kristen can stop even one person from ending an unlived life. I am the author of, Why Whisper? A book with a message to those who are left behind, and to those who believe their lives are not valuable. I want them to know they are mistaken. Every life is valuable. I offer my heart, and my hand to hold.

      September 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm | Report abuse |
      • Cathy Silver

        Thank you for your thoughts and I am so very sorry for your loss. I will look at your book. I have collected a number of books, quotes, passages that help me a great deal. I have read and understand that grieving is hard work and we must do this work well to come through it. It can't be ignored nor hurried. I will share your book with others.

        September 12, 2012 at 1:44 pm | Report abuse |
    • Armine Kirakosyan

      Dear Cathy , I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s very difficult to lose someone who you love and it’s even more difficult to try to live after that. But you Must live for your daughter. . You have a good heart as you want to help others to avoid feeling the pain, that you’ve felt. You want to help those who suffer depression or mental health and I’m sure you will succeed. You say that this article is a testimony to courage to move forward. I agree with you. Who suffers depression , and wants to commit suicide as considers this as the only way out, must know that he’s mistaken. He or she is not the only one who has unsolvable problems, the only one who is neglected , is not loved, and so on. These are not enough reasons to commit this awful sin. Please do not be so selfish, think about your family and friends, about people who love you . Remember that they always need you ,whatever you’ve done or do. You are not ALONE ! Find strength in you to continue TO LIVE and evaluate the LIFE: the biggest gift ever sent from Heavens.

      September 19, 2012 at 5:30 pm | Report abuse |
  95. PeterD

    She survived Screwed Up Teenage Life.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
    • anna

      Why are teenagers so screwed up?

      In my day there was no teenage suicides, none of us were depressed! Something not right somewhere.

      September 12, 2012 at 2:15 pm | Report abuse |
  96. KLF

    There are reasons for your survival. You, like so many, have been blessed with a cause greater than yourself. The journey was/is painful however as time passes, a greater undertsanding comes to light for individuals such as yourself along with the lessoning of pain. Your light will only get brighter and your influence, stronger. There is but one way now. Best to you, and thank you.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:08 pm | Report abuse |
  97. lyvonne

    What an amazing change...a beautiful story!! Hopefully, someone on the brink will read this, and will spread the word. God bless you and your family. enjoy your newborn!!!

    September 12, 2012 at 12:03 pm | Report abuse |
  98. Laura

    This story just brought me to tears. I have suffered with depression myself and know how dark the places are that it can take you in your own mind. What a brave and courageous life this woman is living and many kudos to her for having fought back and for helping other's who are suffering.

    September 12, 2012 at 12:02 pm | Report abuse |
  99. suicidal

    Did she come back from the dead?

    September 12, 2012 at 11:59 am | Report abuse |
  100. Charles Darwin

    She didn't survive suicide. She survived attempted suicide.

    September 12, 2012 at 11:54 am | Report abuse |
    • Beavis

      No kidding, generally the loss of life of the suicider is what suicide is. So did this person die and get resurrected?

      September 12, 2012 at 12:08 pm | Report abuse |
    • lewax00

      My thought exactly. If you survive, then you did not commit suicide...

      September 12, 2012 at 12:12 pm | Report abuse |
      • lewax00

        And while I was writing my comment the name of the article was fixed. Much better now.

        September 12, 2012 at 12:13 pm | Report abuse |
        • Tyler Moody

          Thanks for the comments, we changed the headline after seeing them. I hope you all listen to the story too. Click the play button on the Soundcloud player or look for CNN Radio Soundwaves in Stitcher, iTunes or your favorite podcast app.

          September 12, 2012 at 12:54 pm | Report abuse |
    • Jerome

      A better title would be she failed at suicide

      September 12, 2012 at 10:47 pm | Report abuse |
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